Changing Around Your Friends | almamyrtle.com

Sometimes we forget that we're allowed to change because we're conditioned to believe that we're supposed to remain the same in in order to avoid upsetting/confusing people.  

Are you being held back? Is it by a loved one? A job? A belief system? A group of people or a group of friends? Yourself? 

Here are ways in which people can hold you back: 

* They tell you what is good for you in a patronizing way 

* They look for you to mess up and offer little to no support when you're on the right track

* They don't take responsibility for the bringing you down 

* They enable your bad habits and when you try to talk to them about that they lash out and/or deny that they have any part in steering you in unwanted directions 

* They laugh at your hopes & dreams

* They argue with you or are aggressive toward you when you present a new way of being/living that makes you happy

*Say that they support you but they talk behind your back leaving you feeling unsupported & even unloved

* "Undercover" hate on you by not supporting your business, projects, new found happiness and/or healthy relationships (an "undercover hater" doesn't say what they hate about you to your face, they just drain and hate silently and appear to not react to anything meanwhile they're filled with judgements & jealousy toward you) <--- social media gave birth to undercover hater syndrome

* Remind you of "the old you" and mention the moments when they felt like they knew you (as if to say that your changes stem from falsehoods & stupidity)

* Try to get others to turn on you in hopes that you'll remain the same person you were before People who are trying to hold you back are under the impression that they can control you. 

If you have been/are in a relationship of any kind where you feel like the person is controlling you and you're in the process of getting out, use the realization of this as a tool for empowerment.