Don't Rush People Out of Mourning | almamyrtle.com

When people are mourning, please be careful not to rush them out of it. Saying things like "move on" & "get over it" are daggers to the pained. What about their time & what about compassion? Many people are mourning right now. Let them. It's not your place to decide how they need to feel/how fast they need to get over it.

If you wish to say something, especially at this time, make it positive & supportive...or just be there. There's already a dark cloud, please don't make more storms & then complain that the world is dark. We hear you. We get it. So, you don't like hearing people carry on in anger and/or sadness... but you want functionality & progress. Progress cannot be won by stepping over the much needed process of mourning.

This year alone, the United States has suffered loss & has had brutal awakenings. This shift has put us through hell. Many Souls are tired. Collect in your mind the troubles that we have faced, then ask "ok, is it reasonable to expect people to move on quickly?" If the answer is "yes", then you have an illness to heal. Give yourself a chance to say "Yes, this has happened & I can feel this through".

Let people be vocal about their pain. In my readings, people who become ill from holding things in often say "I wish that I had mourned" & "I wish that I talked about it." When a person wants to exhibit self care, let them.

Let people feel.