When You Feel Supported:When Friends Just...Get It | almamyrtle.com

I just finished venting to one of my famous friends about some trouble that I came across recently.

The person who caused me trouble made things up about me & called me names(so sad how doing something nice for someone can cause the person to grow resentful of your generosity!!??!!).

This person grew super jealous & he even stole from me.

Anyway, I told my friend what happened & she said something that really made me feel good. She said "If he ever spreads rumors about you he will look like a crazy person." Hearing that put a smile on my face then I just burst out laughing. I needed to laugh. She continued by saying "Don't worry, he'll look back & feel so embarrassed by his behavior. You did the right thing by letting him go."

So often in the past, I didn't receive enough validation that I was doing the right thing. I'd tell my parents & they'd either jump to the other person's side or I'd tell a friend & that person would say that Im being "too sensitive"(duh. of course Im sensitive). As a result, I'd keep terrible people in my life,remain in love-deficient situations & doubt myself constantly. Sometimes I'd even call myself "judgmental" when all I was actually doing was sussing someone out correctly!

To have strong people have your back when someone tries to bring you down is truly a gift. To have people who love & support you no matter what kind of shit you get involved in is a gift beyond anything money can buy. When that person, or those kinds of people have your back & speak up for you, you feel less alone in the world. You feel like you are seen. You feel like you validate you. It's empowering.

Today, I'm thankful for the people in my life who have my back when other people try to bring me down/misunderstand me. I didn't have enough of that in my 20's so now not only do I see that my hard work has paid off, but I have people who see eye to eye with me because they just...know.

Spread love.