A True Friend | almamyrtle.com

Do you ever feel locked in by a friend? Like you have to answer to them because you fear that they will turn on you? Or if you don’t answer their every call, they will make you feel guilty about it? Or a friend who tries to make you feel guilty when you need time to yourself? If so, what you have is an out-of-control person who is in control of the relationship. This is not good however, there’s a light in all of this. A huge light. The light is that YOU are also in control and you have the power to steer yourself out of their path of guilt.Here are a few questions to ask: “Why am I not allowing myself to honor my freedom in this relationship?” and “Why is this person trying to make me feel desperate and without steady ground, here?” Why these may be hard questions to ask and even harder to answer, they are a great start.Lets begin with “Why am I not allowing myself to honor my freedom in this relationship?” Right here, freedom doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t carry your friend in heart and mind as you go on about your life. What it means is that you have a right to lovingly desire the connection that you have with your friend without addiction or shame. Perhaps you are drawing from a past relationship (of any kind) with someone who held you back when they saw your independence? Whatever the source, this question can really help you to hone in on what you are afraid of releasing so that you can be free within your union.Lets look at the next question: “Why is this person trying to make me feel desperate and without steady ground, here?” Among many things, this question requires you to look at the person’s self-destructive habits. How do they place their own being in a desperate state? Do they abandon others as a means of control? Perhaps this person’s trust issues go further than you are required to help. Whatever the source is, the guilt trip that they place onto you is their own stuff, not yours. It’s stuff that they place onto you because the burden is too heavy for them. Be there for your friends but know that a true friend, someone who is supportive, will not burden you with guilt because they refuse to take responsibility for what troubles them. A true friend will not disguise their problem as your problem.Cover your side of the tracks and you will be able to see both sides much more clearly. It’s not about judging, it’s about analyzing the situation so that you can thrive and allow the other person to recognize a shield when they sling the tough stuff at you.A true friend means that when you're away, that person respects you, supports you and sticks up for you. A true friend allows you to breathe on your own and believes in you as you honor your feelings & sensitivity without question. And...a true friend does not lay guilt on you as a way of keeping you around. You deserve many,many, true friends. Honor your feelings,honor your spirit,honor your freedom.

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