New Path Old Friends | almamyrtle.com

We all have people from the past who make us smile with one memory, then cringe or get angry at the next. I have them. Do you? Mine keep coming back. Part of me loves when they return because I hope to reconcile, but the other part of me knows that the fire that caused us to separate has not died down. Maybe we need a few years or another lifetime altogether. But for now…

I’ve noticed that when some of my old bffs come back, some things feel so nice and safe. But after a few conversations, I start to actually regard the reality of why they have returned and then the bright lights go dim. The two that have come back into my life were once best friends of mine. Unfortunately, over time, the whipping ripples of their words or lack thereof wore me out and my trust in them fell off like a scab over smooth skin.

Past connections like this have tricky energy and they are so draining. It’s part of life to endure this kind of energy but yeah, it’s pretty tough on most of us. These people are aware that you are more forgiving than they are so, they feed off of that weakness in hopes that you will once again fail to acknowledge their unhealthy way of treating you. And since you were addicted to pacifying the negativity, you itch to fall back into old habits.

This pattern doesn’t have to repeat. This time around you have a chance to change how you treat yourself in all of this. You know a lot more than you knew when you took that old friend back last time. You’ve grown, now acknowledge your growth. Honor it.

Look around in your life. Whether you are riding the waves of success or healing from old wounds(or both), these significant moments are places that need as much happiness as possible right now.

Consider that it’s likely that you will not benefit from being involved with a person who wants you around in order to judge you.

It is not beneficial to blend your current success and/or sadness with a person who fears that their life is incomplete without having you around to manipulate and ridicule.

What you are looking for, what you really want is the courage to release the desire to be approved of by that person. You can do it. Don’t be afraid. Instead, look back on all of the times that you couldn’t be happy when they were around.

Please know that the return of a toxic friend is a chance for you to get better at letting go of that person. It’s a chance to accept them for who they are and a chance for you to accept that you are good enough in life.

See their return as a chance for you to drop the negativity without feeling like you are doing something wrong. Your new path is about self-respect and the desire to cultivate a trustworthy connection that is solid enough to hold the title of “Friend”.

Release their judgments about you and walk toward a brighter day with amazing new friends who love working with you, not against you.

There ARE open minded/like-minded/open hearted people waiting to love you and help make life fun to live. Give yourself a chance to bring in people in who wish to rejoice in your unique energy.

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